22 of August, Online workshop "Trauma of devaluation".
Undoubtedly, devaluation is one of the protective mechanisms of our psyche when we deny or diminish the importance of what is very important to us. And it seems that in the case of devaluation, the devaluation of others is always accompanied by a devaluation of oneself. The same devaluation of others always accompanies the devaluation of oneself. Literally, everything can be devalued. It can be people, emotions, achievements, qualities,… anything. Devaluation is a protective mechanism, but defending ourselves from experience, we are deprived of opportunities in the present. In fact, it is a reaction to some aggression, some trauma. As it always happens in case of injury, there is a splitting. And a small piece of us closes itself and sticks our feelings into a small capsule so that they do not disturb us. And at the same time, it takes something fundamental. We stop being whole and start devaluing ourselves and others. This workshop will not have a significant theoretical part. I do not have a goal to teach you how to work with devaluing. My goal is to support you on your way to yourself, to help you overcome this barrier and stop devaluing yourself. And stop devaluing others and what you get from them.
The work was successful. And you did it very comfortably for me […] I found my mother’s beliefs when she said I wouldn’t make it and I was as bad as my father and his family. And I did a lot of things that I didn’t do to make her feel bad. Mom can’t be wrong. I also found the belief that I was small and “unimportant. And in general, I say stupid things, and everything I say doesn’t matter. And then it was as if a lot of things had changed on the line, both at school and at university. This is strange, but all the events have lined up in a successful model. How it happened, I don’t know. It’s a magic :-). I’ll watch the events unfold in the future.
In the beginning, when you told me how it was going to be, I didn’t think I understood what was going to happen and how to do it, I was distracted, trying not to listen and… watching it all. Apparently, I didn’t want to look at it! But we didn’t have a lot of choice! I’ve done it. There was a lot of pain. Now I’m free. There is no emptiness. No euphoria. Just, calmly. Thank you! Wonderful job!
It was comfortable […] feeling now as if I’m free from something heavy and fill better.
Amazing webinar! Thank you for your knowledge and support! With you I fell safely. I did not expect from myself so much emotion on this topic, but subconsciously knew that still waters run deep. In short, I realized why I had a nightmare for many years, in which three black shadows came to me with the breeze of death. I first interpreted them as fear. But on your webinar, going back in time to that starting point, I saw three in the same position above me as a little one. I saw their faces. In general, there is something to work on :-). Thank you again
Your workshop started a whole chain of changes in my life. In the process, I came up with an intrauterine devaluation injury where Mom and Grandma told me I wasn’t from my dad. And it was as if I had to prove throughout my life that I deserved that life, that I was good and that I deserved to be loved by them. That’s how I took on all sorts of projects and worked to the point of wear and tear. But that wasn’t always enough for me. I thought I could do it faster, better, higher. After working on it, my eyes opened, and it was as if I had lost a huge ballast that I was always carrying around.
Yes, thanks to this injury, I developed a great skill: to set goals and achieve them. But I wasn’t in charge of it, and most of those goals were not mine. Now I have the freedom to apply this skill. And I can go for my goals.
I have revised my life values. And my priorities have changed a lot. To date, I can say with confidence that I have gained confidence in myself, much more satisfied with my work, I have finally allowed myself to rest, enjoy the process, not the achievements, and just live, not run.
Thank you very much; you are doing a very important job! 🙂