Where is my money? Part 2 - The museum of old beliefs
Is it possible to acquire beliefs that will allow you to let more money into your life? Possible! Let’s do it.
Last time I asked you to write down your beliefs about money. I wonder what you got. Some beliefs program us to be successful. “All things are difficult before they are done”. “The more you worried, the stronger your burden would be.” “Whatever man has done, a man may do.” But with money… why is it that in most folk tales, if you are rich, you are certainly greedy and stupid. I do not know why, most proverbs, sayings, phrases and expressions about money programmed us not to have a lot of money. “Good workmen are seldom rich”. “No pain, no gain” “You cannot have two forenoons in the same day.”
Beliefs often come in the form of Proverbs and sayings or phrases that we heard in our childhood. Parents and grandparents primarily determined the opinions of their children. There are a lot of types of parents, e.g. critical parents, strict-but-fair-parents, supportive parents. Who were your parents? What kind of parents are you? What programs are in your head and what programs did you put into your descendants?, Indeed, it is always a program of successful survival. But survival doesn’t mean financial success. If it’s not, can it be reprogrammed? Looking ahead, we will tell at once-it is possible! And it’s quite simple.
I’m interested in what were beliefs of parents, who put into a child’s brain the idea that it is necessary to study thoroughly to be successful in life? Do they think so, or do they just mindlessly repeat what they heard while they were growing up? Do their own mental filters-beliefs not allow them to remember their classmates and realise that not everyone who succeeded was an excellent student? Do they, in fact, understand that prosperity in life is not due to the fact if you remember all the dates from a history textbook. Is it significant in real life to distinguish cations from anions and sulfuric acid from sulphur acid? Maybe the parents themselves are well aware that success in life is determined by the ability to try and make mistakes, the ability to risk reasonably, the ability to build and maintain relationships with others, the ability to seek help and accept help if necessary. There are all things which the school does not teach. But it is enjoyable and honourable to be a parent of an excellent student, who is praised at the parent meetings. It is very convenient not to sit in the evening with his son, but casually ask: “How are you? Three “A”? Good. Did you do homework? Nicely». Or they were firmly convinced that if they praise children, they will become spoiled. The results of such education are well described in books about the “impostor syndrome”. When I realise myself how many of these belief programs I have built into my own children’s heads, I feel humiliated.
Our beliefs lead us to all sorts of things in our life. Once I worked as a coach with a thirty-five-year-old tired man, a master and teacher of yoga and massage. He was in great physical shape; I would never have given him more than twenty-four and was very surprised to find out that he had two adult children. He had a good education, wealth, house, expensive car, but he had exhausted eyes. We investigated his embedded beliefs. Among them, we found: “it is necessary to work hard to have wealth”. If you work hard, you will have everything. If not, you will have nothing. Those who think it’s a good idea, nod, please. Nod, nod, there’s nothing wrong with it. At least, except for tired eyes, it had provided him with wealth and a good family. This belief went along with other beliefs. “There’s no free lunch in this world”. And, most importantly, “Easy come, easy go”. If you got something without effort, you shouldn’t take it. Because what comes without effort, would easily go and take something with it. Very slowly we made our way through his beliefs, examining them from all sides, asking questions. Is it always so? If this is so, have you ever met in your life examples, when it was different? And after a couple of hours, his belief started to expand. “It is necessary to plough. To earn money, it is necessary to plough. But if a bag with money has fallen on to your head, it is not necessary to jump aside. In the end, The Lord is there, on top, know whom to give. Do not offend The Lord with distrust. We continued onwards, and he concluded that, of course, it is necessary to work hard. But when you take a breath and wipe the sweat off your forehead, it wouldn’t hurt to look around. Just to tear out eyes from his shovel. In case something “delicious” is falling very close, and you can take a step and catch it. And immediately then, run to the shovel and again plough, dig, peel and produce other useful and hard work. And then we went to his Personal Museum of Old Beliefs. Now there, next to the faith in Santa Claus and many other beliefs, hangs his old shovel. It is polished to a shine, sharpened and ready to work. Under it the seedling:”… dug up with this shovel….”. Sometimes when it is essential, the shovel can be removed from the nail. The old ability to “plough” is still there, but complemented by many new.
It may seem that I am against any belief at all scary and immoral. That’s not true. I am absolutely not against beliefs, from Biblical statements to “don’t spit against the wind.” Until a person understands that it is only the belief that is embedded in his brain, this may be right, but indeed it may not suit his or her purposes and can at any time be changed.
The trick is, not many people think about it. Last time we described an exciting experience. Let me remind you. If fleas are planted in a jar, they will quite quickly jump out. But if the jar lid is closed and leave it for three days when you open the lid, you will see that no flea will ever jump above the level of the lid.
Moreover, the offspring of these fleas doomed to remain in the jar. They can’t jump out. Built-in beliefs or personal beliefs shape our reality map, and we just don’t see the boundaries of the jar. We watch what confirms them, and we do not view what refutes them. After several such confirming event-persuaders the built-in beliefs become strong as concrete. And we see not the whole diverse world, but only its part, which confirms our experience. Each confirmation strengthens beliefs and narrows down the tunnel of perception. The world collapses into a point of view.
It is time to change! Take a piece of paper, split it in half. Without straining, as if you are doing a curious study, write in the left column of the table everything you know or ever heard about money. Think of excellent or dangerous situations that have happened to you or near you about money. Motivating and inspiring – write too. Think about why for the ancestors were so crucial to the programming of future generations that way? Beliefs never come from nowhere. Beliefs emerge as a result of a SUCCESSFUL model of behaviour. Perhaps successful at survival and conservation of the genus.
Most beliefs are subconscious. Ask ourselves: